A Preferred Direction: Philosophy, Strategy, Tactics



Beneath the corruption, our political institutions are creations of wise and prudent men, and repositories of much that is good.  It is these very institutions that make our society function, however imperfectly.  Contrary to Marx, I would like to see us build a superior social order upon the basic structure, rather than the ruins, of the old.  Nevertheless, reform must be more than a notion.

A scholarly and well-documented defense of fathers and attack on family disincentives appears in the July 1993 issue of The Family in America,  Highly recommended.

To change things, we must first understand them, then act upon those understandings.  Anti-male elements in society understand but one thing: political clout on a national – indeed international – level.  If we are serious about reform, we must agree on a common philosophy, define who we are and cooperate with legitimate allies within existing structures to develop that clout.  Until we do, we can forget ever achieving equality.  I have long suggested as a common unifying philosophy, “Equal rights and equal dignity for the male sex, and preservation of the traditional, nuclear family.”  That may be the only philosophy that all the disparate legitimate elements of this poor “movement” can agree on, and I believe it to be a good one.  Note that family and children are secondary to the central concept.  “For the children” has been a totem for both anti-male and pro-male advocates, an excuse for much hypocrisy.

Samuel Adams said “It does not take a majority to prevail ... but rather an irate, tireless minority, keen on setting brushfires of freedom in the minds of men.”  Margaret Mead said “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change the world; indeed it’s the only thing that ever has.”  What reformers need more of is what Tom Wolfe called “The Brotherhood of the Right Stuff,” men with cajones.  Remember the great old song, “Give me 10 men who are stout-hearted men, and I’ll soon give you 10,000 more.  Shoulder to shoulder, bolder and bolder they grow as they go to the fore.

Reform requires developing mutual respect, confronting seemingly inherent egotistical problems, eliminating them in any way necessary, and restoring organizational continuity.  Defections from existing organizations and formation of new ones must be discouraged.  I submit that the path toward unity involves honoring our founding fathers, deceased or not — men such as Reuben Kidd (whose niece informed me during this writing of his death, 2/26/07  at age 94), George Partis, Jay Burchette , Charlie Metz, and others.  The best approach would have been to give them total authority to dictate strategy and tactics, as was attempted at one unity conference in May of 1985 at Gaithersburg, Maryland.  Sadly, it is too late for that; those early birds still alive are unable to take the reins.

In spite of Charlie Metz’ pessimism, I continue to plead with organization leaders to, if not unify, at least agree to some degree of formal cooperation and information exchange.  Reform begins locally, it’s true; but our big problem has been inability to ‘think outside the box,’ to implement nationwide, even international, cooperation – a high wire act.  The various groups throughout North America, the U.K., Europe and the newly forming ones in So. Africa, Australia, and New Zealand must mature sufficiently to begin working together.  The best hope of bringing some measure of cohesion to the movement would appear to be some sort of amalgam of organizations, at least as a forum for mutual cooperation.  To that end I maintain M.E.N. International’s corporate shell and its IRS umbrella status in the event reasonable people come to recognize the need.

The movement has many different wings; if we can get them flapping in the same direction, and if those elements on the fringes – the introspective types – would focus upon the more important issues confronting men and fathers, great strides could be taken.  There is plenty of talent in the worldwide movement to obtain our goals – if it could be marshaled properly.  Activist Mark Charalambous says “The Father’s Rights movement has been waiting for ‘the anointed one’ for decades now.”  When and if such a man emerges, he will need very thick skin; he will be a human piñata, not just for the man-haters of the world, but from his own compatriots.

There are some bright spots.  In October 2004 the American Coalition of Fathers and Children (ACFC ) assumed publication of The Liberator,  enlisting the capable John Maguire to be Managing Editor, and graciously allowing this writer to remain on staff as Editor Emeritus.  If there is a publication better equipped to serve as a common information forum for the liberation of men, I’d be interested in hearing about it.  ACFC’s undertaking of The Liberator  relieved me of the editorial duties I had since 1975, freeing me to write this book.  Besides taking out impressive, punchy full page ads in conservative newspapers, ACFC has recently become cooperative with Phyllis Schlafley’s male-friendly Eagle Forum.

Blog sites are popping up on the web.  A good one is www.mensnewsdaily.com.  Richard Farr has initiated KRights Radio (www.krightsradio.com) which has strong potential to serve as another communication medium within the movement.

A group of men and women in the U.S. are taking issue with biased media perceptions of domestic violence.  Coming on strong, they’ve formed a group called "RADAR" – Respecting Accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting.  Its objective is to assure that the mainstream media tells the true story and the whole story of partner aggression.  RADAR is setting up a network of persons they call ‘Media Monitors’ to track every major newspaper in the country.  When they spot a biased story, an ‘all-hands’ alert goes out, asking people to send e-mails to headquarters, make phone calls, and write letters to the editor.  Their website is www.mediaradar.org.

On March 7th, 2006, blogger Wendy McElroy reported on ANCPR.com that at least 28 federal lawsuits filed by fathers groups across the country against states for violating fathers’ rights are being consolidated into a single class-action suit by the Indiana Civil Rights Council.

New computer technology will permit easier access to free, realistic counseling for divorce victims, both male and female.  Print and internet forums for men abound, but the popularity thereof or the glibness therein do not necessarily reflect important content.  The internet is a potentially powerful resource for all men.  If organizations could agree, a central website could be created to do resource referrals and provide information.  It could be self-supporting by requiring member subscriptions.  If only current leaders had the imagination.

With the right numbers, we could do many things, such as pressure governments into financing us by giving us half or less of the money saved by our members informing on the many welfare frauds they are cumulatively aware of.

Having made the diagnosis, the prognosis, and the prescriptions, we must see to their implementation.  We must establish a modern crusade against the anti-male jihad.  That is the most fitting memorial that can be erected to the victims.

We haven’t reached the endgame.  Justice is not an “Impossible Dream.”  Imagine a world in which justice prevailed.  As Irish hunger-striker Bobby Sands said, “Our revenge will be the laughter of our children.”  As with Solzhenitsyn, our day will come.  Tiocfaidh ar la (Irish for that term).

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