This book addresses the subjects of:
Advice for men and fathers
Child Custody and Support
Divorce, divorce courts, laws, lawyers,
Divorce effects on children
Feminism, and Rebuttal of Radical Feminism.
Gender discrimination and bias
Gender roles, and differences
Men's and Father's rights
Men's image and health
The title, captures the essence of this
book. There is a great “to do” about the alleged problems women encounter
by virtue of their gender. The problems of men, especially fathers, receive
very little attention. In the last several generations of our feminized, lawyered-up
society, the position of men has deteriorated significantly. The male of the
species is under increasing attack legally, politically, economically and culturally.
That famous phrase from George Orwell’s
Animal Farm, “All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others”
is apropos. To say that gender bias is present is to state the obvious; the
dogs in the street know it. Dual discrimination, pro-female and anti-male,
is pervasive. This bias, a near universal Zeitgeist, is so institutionalized
it is taken for granted. There are few expectations of women, and many of
men. Oversimplified, the cause of men’s sorry situation is a combination of
misplaced chivalry and misandry. This and the metastasizing of Feminism have
severely damaged society.
A large part of this tome is devoted to
domestic relations (divorce) because that is where males and society are most harmed.
Therein lie vast social engineering schemes and prejudices working to the detriment
of traditional men and traditional families. Bad as it is, divorce is but
one facet of a general pattern of discrimination, a double standard that extends
into nearly all areas of law and society, in domestic relations, crime punishment,
employment, and in men’s very image.
Listen to the experts: Esther Vilar, in
her best seller, The Manipulated Man, calls the American male “the most exploited,
the most suppressed, the most manipulated man on the face of the earth;” Linda
Bowles said “It isn’t even close, the most abused, vilified, and sexually harassed
Americans are white, heterosexual males. I don’t know why they put up with
it — and I wish they wouldn’t;” Blackstone said “Woman is the favorite of the law.”
Luther once compared humanity to a drunkard
who, after falling off his horse on the right, remounts and falls off again on the
left. That’s an excellent analogy to sexism. In the past, many prejudices
favored men over women. Today, that situation is reversed. In The War
Against Fathers, Dr Richard Hise explains that men have been so preoccupied with
work and family that they haven’t noticed the incremental losses of their liberties
and the increasing amounts of disrespect toward our sex. He compared it to
a frog not noticing the slowly increasing temperature of the water he is in before
he is boiled to death.
Paul Craig Roberts puts it thusly, “The
war against men is real. It requires men to exercise care in choosing an occupation
and in choosing a woman. The risk-reward ratios have deteriorated both for
marriage and for working for a corporation. A bad choice can leave a man wounded,
maimed, bereft of property and children, and in prison on trumped-up charges.”
Many political agendas and players are involved
in this “rape of the male.” Speaking truth to power, Save The Males exposes
them and their sophistic arguments.
It is time, beyond time actually, to apply
garage logic to these issues, to speak out, especially for the common man – the
guy working on a farm, in a factory, in a garage, driving a truck, or laying bricks
－ men without the time, talent, or inclination to sit behind desks manipulating
facts and statistics favorable to our cause, as our more glib detractors do.
Save The Males is a very small candle lit
in a very dark night. It makes the case that restoration of men’s rights is
the best route back to a civilized society. The book is the result of decades
of research, divorce counseling and reform organizational work. The author,
Richard Doyle, formed several men’s/fathers’ movement coalitions; he edited and
published The Liberator, international newsmagazine of that movement for over 35
Save The Males is a defensive action in
the battle of the sexes, a warning to anyone who will listen of the dire consequences
of anti-male attitudes. It is not intended to drag women down to the level
of treatment accorded men, but to bring men up to that accorded women. The
purpose is to rescue men, not to denigrate women. The book explores the realities
of life, resurrects the old-fashioned concepts of right and wrong, and examines
their eternal conflict in law and behavior. Law degrees, black robes or Roman
collars aren’t needed to perceive these realities. In fact, such trappings
are often detrimental. The Appendix lists other books helpful to men battling
for justice in divorce employment, criminal matters, and image in general.
Save The Male’s other-side of-the-coin arguments
will outrage chivalrous instincts, but such instincts are largely responsible for
society’s problems. This is plain talk; no sophistry or trendy jargon.
It is logic – cold, cruel, inexorable, undeniable – with all the subtlety of a Panzer
division. As Barry Goldwater said, “I would remind you that extremism in the
defense of liberty is no vice. Let me remind you also that moderation in the
pursuit of justice is no virtue.” Like hitting a beehive with a stick, this
book will be offensive to some, but how else can one deal with offensive subjects?
It is not meant to be light-hearted entertainment. One cannot be humorous
about the annual ruin of thousands of men, children, and families.
The whole question of men’s rights and of
divorce is one that society would rather sweep under the rug. To most people
it is inconvenient, embarrassing, politically incorrect or confusing. Certain
subjects are offensive to many who would prefer not to face them, but their airing
might prevent consequences far worse than ruffled feelings. The very idea
of men’s rights is unpopular, and shocking. The anti-slavery cause was unpopular
and shocking 140 years ago, as were earlier moral voices crying in the wilderness.
Attacking popular misconceptions enrages elements in all social strata, as Galileo,
Darwin, Freud, even Jesus Christ can attest.
Men are not better than women or always
in the right; but women have the entire legal establishment oriented to help them,
so this book is not overly concerned with women’s problems, however legitimate,
just as the NAACP is not overly concerned with white people’s problems. Admittedly,
there are evil men and good, competent women, and some traces of discrimination
against women may remain. Save The Males makes the case that that which exists
against men is vastly greater.
It is only common sense that gender justice
will benefit women as well as men. Decent women, though they may read this
with one eyebrow raised, do not want sons, brothers, and loved ones to suffer injustice,
or the institution of marriage to disappear. Children deserve a family — father
and mother, an environment free from prejudice — ethnic and sexual, and a country
safe for marriage.